WHAT IS AN INNER CHILD?
Inner child is the integral part of ourselves that is silent. that is present when we are conceived first in our mothers womb. From the utreous to the all-developing years of our life. inner child present from the very beginning years since we took our first breath to old age when we all take our last breath. From baby, infact, toddler, young age, adolescence, middle school age, teenage, young age, adulthood. We carry it all way around deep in our psyche.
The innnerchild can most of the time be recalled as childhood traumas, fears, neglect, abandonment or some kind of loss. It’s hard to pinpoint an event and call it traumatic to us. But when we start to notice and observe the internal patterns which is buried in our subconscious mind. Then we took a hand to start our innner journey. As we all know that growth happens from inside. This inside is our inner child. Who is still tied to old patterns of demolition. which hinders our growth in day to day life.
WHAT IS INNER CHILD WOUNDS?
We may notice when we are experiencing any kind of fear, perfectionism, anxiety, and leaving people in a row. Not only it is limited to people but place with certain experiences. These are the tactics we will play in order to feel safe. The internal wounds, called inner child wounds, that formed during the early ages of upbringing of the self.
And also inner child is away from the reality of present age or adult self reality. Also may not know how the time is changed. And how all others have grown up. But they have not.
inner child wound may feel like you are carrying a heavy weight on your shoulders, when in real there’s nothing in present bothering us. We may feel like we are carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. That everything what is happening is our responsibility. And we are responsible for it. If our inner child holding us back due because it lived with instability, uncertainty or danger. we may observe if we observe ourselves , inner chid is holding us to try new things as it is engulfed into past fears and is afraid to take risk to take leap jump. We will feel stuck at same place ever and ever. Feeling of stuckness is the sign that our inner child is wounded and needs healings.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU HAVE A WOUNDED INNER CHILD?
- People having feelings of shame, gulit and pain
- A person will overwork or overindulge himself to get approval.
- A person will be absent-minded.
- Dealing with anxiety and fear.
- Stiffness and perfectionism is one of the signs.
- Problem celebrating life “wins”(no achievment will be enough for him or her)
- Realtionship issues and unhealthy pattern of avoiding love relationships.
- obsesssive/addictive behavior
- self-sabotage
- underachvement
- Rumination and negative self talk.
TOP FAMOUS QUOTES ON WOUNDED INNER CHILD:
“My quest these days is to find my long-lost inner child, but I’m afraid if I do, I’ll end up with food in my hair and way too in love with the cats.” – Kenny Loggins
“In every real man, a child is hidden that wants to play.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
“I’m happy to report that my inner child is still ageless.” – James Broughton
“I think my inner child wants to take over the world.” – Mark Foster
“A child who does not play is not a child, but the man who does not play has lost forever the child who lived in him.” – Pablo Neruda
“The reluctance to put away childish things may be a requirement of genius.” – Rebecca Pepper Sinkler
“When I grow up, I want to be a little boy.” – Joseph Heller
“It sounds corny, but I’ve promised my inner child that never again will I ever abandon myself for anything or anyone else again.” – Wynonna Judd
“Those who play rarely become brittle in the face of stress or lose the healing capacity of humor.” – Stuart Brown
“A grownup is a child with layers on.” – Woody Harrelson
“Caring for your inner child has a powerful and surprisingly quick result: Do it and the child heals.” – Martha Beck
HOW TO HEAL OUR INNER CHILD?
One of the most imortant things we can do on our soul jorney is care and attend to our inner child.
A way to do is by acknowledging our inner child presence. We can begin this journey by recognizing and accepting things that caused us pain in our child hood.
Bringing hurts out into light can help us begin to understand thier impact.
once we started to form connection with our inner child, we can deepy started to listen to the feeling of the subtle speaker living inside ourselves. afraid to express.
The feelings that arise might be:
- insecurty
- vulnerablity
- anxiety
- gulit and shame
- greif
- rejection and abdonoment
- Anger
Each of these feelings carry a charged emotion that stays stuck into the body, when it is not addressed. Without realizing we act them out on the daily basis- hurting ourselves and people around us.
Most often the innner child within ourselves is either screaming for our attention or shutting itself down in despair, feeling neglected and abandoned.
Practice giving our inner child full attention by fully feeling everything that comes up. As we do this it begins to release the emotional charge.
This will take time and is about building trust,
Inner child therapy is an empowering process that can help us and will add more happiness to life.
YOUR INNER CHILD NEEDS TO HEAR…
- IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT.
- YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN PROTECTED.
3.HOW PEOPLE TREATED YOU IS A REFLECTION OF HOW THEY FELT ABOUT THEMSELVES.
- JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE DENIED THAT IT HAPPENED, DOESN’T MEAN IT DIDN’T HAPPEN
5.YOU HAVE UNIQUE GIFTS, TALENTS AND A KIND OPEN HEART.
- YOUR ROLE IS NOT TO ACCOMPLISH, TO Achieve, TO PLEASE THOSE AROUND YOU.
- THE PEOPLE WHO ABANDONED YOU ALSO ABANDONED THEMSELVES.
This exercise takes courage and brings up your emotions. Find a quite safe place. Close your eyes and say each thing to yourself softly, in a calm, soft voice. Say these things quite loudly to your inner child. Let all the emotions come up.
People might cry at first. Or may feel strong emotions. Some might have urge to run, scream. Those are the repressed emotions which people are carrying out as emotional baggage. Take a deep breath close your eyes and keep breathing.
When we started to acknowledge our emotions of hurt, scared, inner child. That’s when people starts to heal thier inner child.
DO this for atleast 30 days and you will be amazed at how differently you started to happen infront of others and to self.